3 ways to boost your assertiveness
I am really lucky to have grown up with an assertive mother and a whole pack of strong women in my family. I felt like I learned from an early age how to speak up for myself, but even with that strong foundation, there have still been so many times when I’ve not advocated for myself.
Being a childfree entrepreneur comes with its unique set of challenges and opportunities - particularly because you’ve chosen a path that is likely different than what was expected of you (at least from society’s perspective). It’s even more important to cultivate assertiveness to thrive in your personal and professional life.
If you feel like you could use a little help in this area, check out these 5 practical ways to enhance your assertiveness:
Embrace Self-Awareness: Self-awareness is the foundation of assertiveness. Take the time to understand your core values, strengths, and boundaries. Reflect on your goals and aspirations, both personally and professionally. Knowing yourself means that you can present yourself from a position of strength - you will be able to assert your needs and make choices aligned with your values. Action Step: Spend 5-10 minutes journaling every day to really reflect on your values, goals, strengths, and boundaries.
Practice Effective Communication: Assertiveness relies on clear and effective communication. Develop strong communication skills by actively listening to others, expressing yourself clearly, and asking for what you need. Avoid aggressive or passive communication styles and aim for assertive and respectful interactions. Action Step: Review any emails you are sending out this week - look for examples of speaking passively or apologetically and rewrite in an assertive but respectful way.
Seek Support and Practice: Assertiveness is a skill that can be learned through practice. Surround yourself with others who can support your growth and inspire you to advocate for yourself. Seek out mentorship or coaching to further develop your skills. Action Step: Reach out to a mentor, coach, or join a supportive community where you can enhance your assertiveness through shared experiences, guidance, and role-playing situations.
Assertiveness is not about being aggressive or dominating, it’s about honoring your needs and advocating for yourself with confidence and respect.
-Valerie